Many couples, especially those who have been together for a long time, tend to find their sex life ends up being more average than amazing. Every relationship needs relief from the same old bedroom routine now and then.
But don't worry...adding the spice back into your sex life can easier than you think. Here is a collection of tips to boost the passion points in your romance.
Get Wet and Wild
The bath or shower can be more than just a place to get clean! It can also be a sexy rendezvous to reconnect with your lover. Taking the time to bathe each other and wash one another’s hair can be a sensual delight. Steam up the bathroom with some erotic accessories inviting to both you and your lover. If you have the available counter space or open shelves, place scented candles around the room. Keep aromatic bath oils and waterproof toys close by. Just be sure you have a private place to store your toys if you have children or
One if by Land...
Keep a set of "signal" sheets (or even just a signal pillow) that you or your lover can put on the bed to silently request a romantic tryst. Pick an unusual color, a sexy material like satin or a bold pattern - or a pillow with a sexy come-hither saying on it.
An Appetite for Love
Prepare a dinner that is a prelude to love wearing nothing but an apron and a smile. There are so many foods that have been thought to be aphrodisiacs that you will have no problem planning a menu. Some ideas are oysters, pine nuts, peaches, grapes, walnuts -- even asparagus - or just serve something special to the two of you. More important than the food is that the meal stirs the senses by evoking arousing smells, tastes and textures. Don't forget to play mood music and put candles in every room. You don't even have to make it to the bedroom - why not have a change of sexual venue in the kitchen?
Buy some pretty or provocative stationery - or use your computer to create an invitation for a romantic date or trip for you and your lover. Include all of the details including the time, date, what to wear and where to meet, but keep the romantic event itself a surprise. Address the envelope to your lover and mail it to him or her. In this era of instant communication with email, text messaging and cell phones, the invitation will be a romantic surprise.
Remember when a mix tape was sooo romantic? To get you in the mood, make a mix CD of all of your favorite sexy songs or fun songs and have a dance together. Get as wild or as romantic as you wish - your dances can go as far as you like. You can add a bump-and-grind music and do your own strip tease or some salsa and do your own forbidden dance of love.
Reach Out and Touch Someone
Don't forget simple pleasures. Brushing your lover's hair, a light sensual massage or just cuddling can be extremely sensuous. Touching always leads to more touching. Play touching games by seeing how lightly you can run your hands over your lover's body, spell out suggestive words with your finger and see if he or she can guess what you wrote.
Keep your bedroom off limits for everything except sleep and romance. Do not allow it to be a center of the household where you write bills or do work, it should be a haven for you and your lover and a stress-free zone where you enjoy one another and your relationship. Use soft colors and fabrics, fresh cut flowers on your nightstand, mirrors and your favorite art - anything to create an atmosphere of relaxation and sensuality.
Trick or Treat
Costumes are not just for kids at Halloween. There are so many sexy costumes out there for men and women. Try role playing as a pilot and a stewardess - or a teacher and a schoolgirl - or a real estate agent and a prospective home buyer. The possibilities are endless. Fantasy foreplay can lead you to realms of spiciness you never knew existed. Let your imagination run wild.
What do you do to spice up your relationship? Leave us a comment and let us know!